They don’t always come with fangs.
Sometimes, the enemy walks in with charm.
And if you’re not careful, they won’t just attack you… they’ll infect your circle.
In a world where relationships are God’s gifts and connection is key to our calling, the wrong influence—especially a narcissist—can sabotage everything God is building around you.
Let’s talk about it.
The Devil Doesn’t Always Come for You First…
Sometimes, he comes for the people around you.
When Satan couldn’t curse Israel directly, he found a backdoor through Balaam (Numbers 22–25).
When Delilah couldn’t seduce Samson’s strength, she seduced his trust (Judges 16).
When Absalom couldn’t dethrone David by force, he stole the hearts of the people (2 Samuel 15:6).
Are you seeing the pattern?
The narcissist’s tactic is ancient:
If they can’t destroy you, they’ll disconnect you—from your people, your peace, and your purpose.
What the Spiritually Narcissistic Do:
1. They Turn Your Circle Against You
Just like Absalom did to King David, narcissists love to stand at the gate of your influence, acting like they care more than you. They’ll whisper, flatter, and stir division.
“Oh that I were made judge in the land…” (2 Samuel 15:4).
Sound familiar?
2. They Pretend to Protect You While Poisoning You
Judas kissed Jesus before betraying Him (Luke 22:48). That’s what a narcissist does. They move close—not out of love—but for leverage.
3. They Exploit Your Trusted People
In Genesis 3, Satan didn’t approach Adam directly. He went through Eve. Why? Influence. Access. Control.
Narcissists do the same—they’ll access your closest friends, family, even your pastor—just to pull strings.
4. They Isolate You from God-Given Support
One of the oldest strategies of the enemy is isolation before destruction.
Proverbs 18:1 warns us:
"A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment."
When a narcissist succeeds in cutting you off from wise counsel and supportive friendships, their grip gets tighter.
God's Wisdom on Protecting Your Circle:
Proverbs 4:23 – “Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it flows the issues of life.”
Your heart includes your relationships, your trust, and your discernment. Don’t let just anyone have keys to what God gave you to protect.
Matthew 7:6 – “Do not give what is holy to dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine…”
Not everyone deserves access to your vulnerable spaces. Some will trample your trust, then turn on you.
Romans 16:17 – "Watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles... Keep away from them.”
Paul didn’t say debate with them. He said, mark them and avoid them. Narcissists are often gifted with influence but bankrupt in integrity.
A Truth Bomb:
A narcissist doesn’t just want you to admire them.
They want your world to revolve around them.
And if that means ruining your marriage, splitting your ministry, or breaking your bond with your best friend—they’ll do it and smile doing it.
How to Fight Back (Spiritually & Practically):
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Pray for discernment daily. Not everyone who smiles is safe (1 John 4:1).
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Limit access to your trusted circle when a manipulator is involved.
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Talk to your people—don’t let a narcissist control the narrative.
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Stay rooted in the Word so you can detect lies quickly.
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Don’t explain too much. Set your boundaries and stand on them. Jesus didn’t explain Himself to Judas.
Final Reflection:
In this season, God may be calling you to fortify your relationships, not just enjoy them.
Because the enemy’s plan isn’t just to make you miserable—it’s to separate you from the help God placed in your life.
And sometimes the serpent doesn’t come to bite.
He comes to bond, so he can break.
Call to Action:
Start praying over your inner circle.
Ask God to reveal the Judas, remove the Delilah, and resurrect your discernment.
Your destiny is too great, your assignment too sacred, to leave it open to sabotage.
10 Simple but Powerful Prayer Points
1. Lord, expose every hidden enemy around me.
"For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed." – Luke 8:17
Prayer: Father, shine Your light and expose every deceptive person pretending to be for me but working against me. Amen.
2. Lord, surround me with godly, trustworthy relationships.
"The righteous choose their friends carefully." – Proverbs 12:26
Prayer: Lord, align me with people who truly love and honor You. Remove every counterfeit relationship. Amen.
3. Give me the spirit of discernment.
"Test the spirits to see whether they are from God." – 1 John 4:1
Prayer: Holy Spirit, help me recognize the truth behind people’s words and actions. Help me to see what You see. Amen.
4. Break every soul tie to narcissistic or manipulative people.
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers." – 2 Corinthians 6:14
Prayer: Lord, I cut off every ungodly tie that is draining my purpose, peace, and power. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
5. Guard my heart from emotional manipulation.
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." – Proverbs 4:23
Prayer: Lord, help me set healthy boundaries that protect my emotions and my destiny. Amen.
6. Lord, restore the relationships the enemy tried to destroy.
"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten." – Joel 2:25
Prayer: God, restore what was damaged by lies, manipulation, or betrayal. Heal every relationship that You want to remain. Amen.
7. Help me walk in love without losing my guard.
"Be wise as serpents and innocent as doves." – Matthew 10:16
Prayer: Lord, teach me to love like Jesus, but with the wisdom to avoid traps and deception. Amen.
8. Destroy every plan of the enemy to isolate me.
"Two are better than one... a cord of three strands is not quickly broken." – Ecclesiastes 4:9–12
Prayer: Father, I reject every scheme designed to separate me from godly support and wise counsel. Amen.
9. Give me peace when I let go of toxic people.
"You will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You." – Isaiah 26:3
Prayer: Lord, I release every unhealthy attachment and trust You to fill every gap with Your peace. Amen.
10. Let the Holy Spirit be my daily counselor in relationships.
"Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, 'This is the way, walk in it.'" – Isaiah 30:21
Prayer: Holy Spirit, guide me daily. Speak clearly when I’m unsure who to trust. Be my compass in every relationship. Amen.
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